How Divorce Can Be The Catalyst For Transformation

Will you give yourself permission to  experience not just the sorrow of divorce but the opportunities for transformation?

Divorce As Catalyst For Transformation

Feeling hopeful about change, even painful change, and the opportunities it will bring, is an aspect of resilience and provides strength to move through the hard times successfully. 

There are many factors which keep us mired in the bog of what happened, in the mud of what we lost and in the fear of what is to come. If you are willing to go step-by-step, I believe you will move beyond your divorce into the life you want and deserve. Divorce is heartbreaking and challenging but it should not be punishing, or a good life ending experience.

The Life Quake of Divorce

Divorce uniquely positions you square in the flow of a changing life. The waves are sometimes tumultuous. 

Some of my clients become skeptical when I share that they can look at their life right now as an opportunity. They say that this is the worst time in their lives. Divorce may be seen as destroying, but can it also be a fork in the road moment? 

I understand the fear and skepticism.

I've been divorced. I've been a divorce attorney and I'm a psychologist who specializes in getting people through divorce to the other side. I absolutely get how torturous it can be. It affects every nook and cranny of our lives. That is precisely why I call divorce a life quake which might as well be an earthquake for what it feels like to be caught in the middle of it. Let's be clear. I take heartbreak very seriously. Divorce though can be a catalyst for transformation in the challenge comes the change.

Divorce may be seen as destroying, but can it also be a fork in the road moment? 

Ask yourself, "What is it I want to make of my life right now?"  It's a big question but I believe you should consider asking yourself this big question every day on this journey going forward.

Maybe you seek a life characterized by peace, or a life in which you love and feel loved. Maybe you want to feel like you are part of what a "real" family again. Maybe you want the opportunity to chase your dreams or find sustained well being.

The meaning we give this time in our lives affects our internal state.

Our internal state affects our behavior.

When our actions are intentional and in alignment with our wants and needs they are powerful.

Have You Given Yourself Permission To Experience The Opportunity For Transformation In Your Divorce?

Inquire of yourself: What advice might your future self give you about something difficult you’re dealing with today?

Let yourself imagine harnessing the incredible energy of this time and putting it into rebuilding your home, your health, into your spirituality and relationships.

Will you give yourself permission to turn this time into a time of transformation?

You are hard-wired to be self-connected.  You need only open the inner door to access to the creative part of you. Self-connection is a game changer. To find out more about how I can help you make this essential connection, read more here.