By Placing the Past in the Past We Assert that Divorce is Not Failure

We are also working on the premise that even though it's an extremely untapped or repressed capacity in most women, we were created subtly and energetically with unparalleled capacities for transmutation of what may be out of balance or toxic to us. This means that regardless of what we face in life, if we are empowered enough to really understand our inherent energetic capacities as women, we can ALWAYS transform a toxic experience into energy or resource that sustains and strengthens us. And I mean no matter how awful or toxic. Our capacities are unlimited.

Jumana Sophia

Placing the past in the past does not mean we should try to forget about our experiences. That kind of dissociation serves only to deny what we know to be true and causes us to lose trust in ourselves. 

When I refer to placing the past in the past, I am suggesting that we think of divorce as one part of life, but not our entire lives. It is one part of your experience. It is not who you are.

Placing the past in the past is also an assertion that divorce is not failure. Divorce is traumatic and not at all what we would have wished for. That is precisely why it is such a powerful learning experience.

Once we extract the lessons we are meant to learn from our divorce, from the heartache, from the feeling again and again of the rug being pulled out from under us, the divorce itself can have meaning and when it has meaning our mind feels safe to move forward and place the experience in the past. The meaning is what we bring into our future.

In drawing upon the emotions that arise during transitions, be they positive or negative, the emotions fuel change. 

I call divorce a life quake because there isn't an area of your life that's untouched.It is this cleared ground that makes it a time perfect for building. The building occurs upon a ground rich with the meaning we give to the experience and the lessons we have learned.