​9 Ways Trust Issues Appear In and Sabotage Our Lives:

Healthy relationships foster intimacy.  Care, validation, and understanding in relationships foster intimacy.  Intimacy in relationships fosters happiness and well-being and can shield against stress. 

Couple Therapy

When couples have increased conflict without closeness they may go to couple therapy where goals often include:

decreased labeling of one of two sides as the problem

increased flexibility in the relationship

enhanced adaptation to arising change

reduction of symptomatic behavior

enhanced tolerance of situations the couple can not change.

Individual Therapy for Trust Issues

Couples don't always have the luxury of working together. Also, the work of healing often begins with one party taking steps individually to increase their well-being. Working individually is also undertaken when one senses difficulties in one's relationships overall, including friend and other relative relationships, as well as when a relationship has already ended and the individual wants to do the work in the hopes of having healthy future relationships.

Sometimes the way we approach relationships overall damages or prevents our being in relationships. When we are scared that any relationship will make us a dependent person, we may have trust issues that stand between us and any healthy relationship.

How do you know if you have trust issues that are inhibiting lasting relationships?

There are some tell-tale signs to look for that are common experiences for a person with significant trust issues.

​9 Ways Our Trust Issues Appear In and Sabotage Our Lives:

· You feel extremely uncomfortable sharing your emotions or personal information with another who you know well and seek a relationship with. 

· You expect that anyone you care about deeply will ultimately betray you.

· You expect negative change and refuse to commit in the face of it.

· Your authentic self only comes out when you are by yourself.

· Because you have been hurt in the past, you believe you are clueless when it comes to knowing who to trust and therefore trust no one.

· You imagine the worst of your partner and need to know where your partner is, what they are doing and who they are with at all times.

· You see any sign of conflict as evidence that it is time to end the relationship.

· You look for behaviors, even  minor or infrequent forgetfulness of things that are important to you, as proof you are not cared for in the relationship.

· You worry excessively about being betrayed, humiliated, or left by your partner.

Trust issues often develop when we are young in response to our parent's care taking behaviors.  Those behaviors have influenced but need not continue to control the way we feel and behave in relationships. You can learn tools and techniques to help you develop healthy relationships.