How Can Divorce Be An Opportunity for Transformation?

I will answer this question by posing 4 critical questions.

First question:

Will you give yourself permission to experience the opportunity for transformation divorce uniquely positions you for?

Cut to a typical afternoon at work.

New clients look at me as if I'm BONKERS when I share that divorce is an opportunity for transformation. 

"Are you kidding?" MaryAnn asked "This is the absolute worst time of my life!"

I understand.

Having been divorced, been a divorce attorney, and a psychologist who specializes in helping people get through divorce, I absolutely get how torturous and heartbreaking divorce can be.

Divorce affects every nook and cranny of our lives! 

Not just affects but scrambles or smashes it all into pieces.

That is precisely why I call divorce a "LIFE QUAKE" which might as well be an earthquake if you happen to be caught in one.

Let's Be Clear: I take heartbreak very seriously.

It's because I do that I know divorce can do more than torture; it can be a catalyst for a second chance...a new life...a transformation.

Of course healing takes time.  But it need not take the amount of time it typically takes.

Did you know it takes the average person 2-5 years to heal from divorce?

I don't believe it has to take that long.

For you, and if you are a mom, for your kids, 2 to 5 years is too long.

Second Question:

What meaning are you giving your divorce?

In determining the meaning of divorce, its helpful to start with what you want in your life now, what you want out of your life now.

Maybe it's peace.

Maybe it's to love and be loved.

Maybe it's to be a part of what will feel like to you to be a real feeling of family.

Maybe it's the opportunity to chase your dreams.

Maybe it's well-being.

The meaning of our divorce affects our internal state. 

 Our internal state affects our behavior.

When our behavior is in alignment with our wants and needs, it's behavior that is intentional and powerful.

 

Third Question: What if we harness this time of intention and the energy and the power it generates to move through what is holding us back in being a woman, a parent?

 

The meaning of our divorce should empower us and inspire us to make what we want and need in our life a reality. 

Imagine harnessing the energy and power to move through anything and everything holding you back in your career, spirituality, home, health, finances, and relationships?

Fourth Question:

Will you give yourself permission to experience the opportunity for transformation divorce uniquely positions you for?

Inspire me with your answers.