Healing from trauma is not about erasing the past, it’s about transforming the way it lives within you. It’s about recognizing that while trauma may have shaped your experiences, it does not define you. You are capable of growth, of rewriting your story, and of stepping into a life that is filled with love, connection, and possibility.
One of the most common questions I am asked is:
How do I know if I have trauma?
Many people believe trauma is something that only happens in extreme circumstances: war, stranger or family violence, automobile accidents, or major losses. These more extreme circumstances are objectively traumatic. However, an event need not be objectively traumatic or extreme to have been traumatic.
Whether an event is traumatic for us is related to both whether the event is objectively traumatic and whether the event was subjectively traumatic.
When determining whether clients who have experienced major negative life events have experienced trauma, I am mindful of both their objective exposure to trauma and my clients’ subjective experience of the event.
Clients who experience an event(s) that is both subjectively experienced as traumatizing and objectively typically classified as trauma are at the greatest risk for significant distress. It is important to realize that even events that are not typically considered objectively traumatic may be traumatic to an individual based upon the individuals own life experience and resources and the meaning they have given to the event.
Trauma is not just about what in particular happened to us. It is also about how we personally experience, process, and give meaning to those events.
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