After many years working with happy and unhappy couples, one element I have found in successful and enduring relationships is for both people to actually love their partner each day.
More than grand gestures.
More than a recitation of your continuing promise to always, always be there.
Love as an active verb.
Love as an act each day.
Every day.
Even when angry.
Even when busy.
Make the conscious choice to indeed love your partner.
What that looks like will depend on the context of that very day.
What is going on in their world today? In yours?
Be curious about their inner experience.
What might be capturing their thoughts and feelings today?
What is one small thing you could do that would be felt as an act of love on this day?
What is one small thing you can do to show:
I see you.
I care about you.
I'm excited to be with you.
We're in this together.
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