Take a Match to the Divorce Story Edited By Shame.

I created Break Up to Brilliance to both honor the loss women experience when a relationship ends as well as to honor them, their heart and soul. It's important to me that they do not lose sight of all that they are beyond the role they played in their relationship. 

Endings create a clearing for new growth. Sometimes that new growth can be stunted by a story that keeps the past alive, keeps it ongoing.  Listen to the story you are telling yourself about your divorce.  If it were totally up to you and didn't include input from others who know nothing of your experience or includes input from a culture that tries to shame a woman and suggest she is not enough.  If that is the case, you must rewrite the narrative.

This story of your divorce experience must be in your authentic voice and reflect what you actually lived through.

Listen to the story you are telling yourself about your divorce.  Is it a novel? Historical fiction? Is the end of the story meant to depict your ending?

If it were totally up to you how many chapters would you devote to this story of your broken relationship? The divorce is not only not your whole life but it is not your whole marriage.  There are other chapters that reflect your truth at differnt parts of the relationship. Don't clump all the good stuff in with the bad stuff.  If you have placed all of your story in the divorce chapter, you must rewrite the narrative.

Reformat your divorce story into one chapter of your life. Not only is it not all of your past but it does not all come squarely into your present. We must differentiate the past from today. We must set the stage for gathering our bearings right here and right now.  r

Reclaiming your voice and your dreams for the future begins with a narrative that truly reflects that part of your past. 

Write it all out, every bit of your divorce story. Write it in black or blue ink and don't leave a thing out! Now get a red pen. It's time to edit. It's your voice that must be heard.