Trusting ourselves to have healthy relationships in the future is hard after divorce. Understanding why things happened a certain way is not always possible.
If we do not know why something happened how can we know it won’t happen again?
Penelope (a client, name changed) wondered, “How did I fall for that guy? Why did I trust him?” “My friends didn’t trust him, but they never told me! When I asked them why, they just said you were so happy, and we didn’t want to ruin it for you!”
During our session, we talked about how her decisions were made from a place of kindness, generosity, and goodness inside of her. This did not melt away Penelope’s concern.
“If that is so, how do I stop from ending up like this again?” “How can I ever trust myself?”
We talked about how mindfulness, in a compassionate way, of what we are thinking and feeling leads to clarity of mind and with clarity of mind comes choice.
Trusting ourselves does not always come as naturally as we might expect after a divorce laden with a series of unexpected events and outcomes. Trusting ourselves means we have faith in our own wisdom and goodness, as well as taking responsibility for our role in the way events went on to unfold.
Mindfulness, again kind and compassionate mindfulness, of our own thoughts and feelings and the context in which we are experiencing them can help us to renew trust in our own experiences of the world and each other. We can begin again to hear the soft whisper of our intuition. We feel the power that we have to make good choices pulse through our veins. Mindfulness leads us to hear our own truth. Once we hear it clearly, we begin again to trust ourselves.
You deserve love and trust in yourself.
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