Waking Up To The Relationship Patterns that Serve You No Longer

"One of the hardest parts of healing from past relationships, is learning to trust ourselves again."

When we subconsciously play out patterns in adult relationships that we learned from growing up in our families of origin, subconsciously hoping to heal the pain from those early days, and these adult relationships have led to heartbreak and pain - it makes us afraid to trust ourselves again.

Do you remember the last time you felt certain that you were doing what was best for you?

After a painful break-up we have an enormous opportunity to dive deeper into connection with our authentic selves  and regain trust in ourselves. 

How can we learn to trust ourselves again?

Through forgiveness and self-compassion.

Remember that every path you’ve walked, every choice you’ve made has provided you lessons that you can now use here, now, today!

The amazing fact that you notice your doubt in yourself means you are in the process of waking up to the patterns that are no longer adaptive and no longer serve you.

You are capable of healing and creating healthy love.

You will learn to trust yourself again. To listen to that quiet whisper from your soul when it speaks to you, to your intuition, your body, your heart. It will feel like coming home.

We repeat patterns that are familiar even if they hurt because they feel safer than the unknown or because we seek to cure the disappointments from past relationships in new relationships.

You’re not broken. 

You are capable of healing, creating love and receiving love. 

You are worthy of all your heart and soul ache for.

Layer by layer, you are peeling back the masks, opening the gates and reclaiming all the parts of yourself and you are remembering who you are. You who are so beautiful and worthy beneath the secrets and layers of guilt and shame.

"Love is infinite within you and you do not have to work to earn it, you simply need to remember that it is rightfully yours and then let it in".

The quotes are from Shay at Rising Woman and the post is inspired by a letter I received from her.She so clearly articulates the struggles we have discussed here about tuning into our own wisdom and truth.

From a post I shared in Divorce Recovery Community, a private Facebook group for women healing before, during, or after divorce or even still married but in need of healing.  If this type of group resonates with you, stop by.

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